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The life insurance salesman must really be a Renaissance Man: part business owner, part financial professional, part spiritual guide. Here I share items of interest about myself, my sales company, and my life.

A Soft-Hearted, Hard-Minded Foreign Policy

fsi_basicheatmap_2013_wideHave you ever noticed how much of life is a balancing act?

In order to grow, we need to be gentle with ourselves, yet we must also follow a spiritual discipline;

Our children need us to show them unconditional love, yet at the same time they need us to set defined limits;

In business we must be as accommodating as possible to our clients, vendors, and employees, but not to the point where we erode our bottom line.

This kind of balance is especially needed in our foreign policy. [Read more…]

 

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You’ll Be Okay, Charlie Brown

cbxmasDid you know that the CBS executives who first aired “A Charlie Brown Christmas” expected it to flop?

Instead, the prime time holiday special based on George Schulz’s popular comic strip was a huge hit. It’s shown every year since it first aired in 1965 and has become a favorite across generations.

Many people think that the show is about the commercialization of Christmas and the holiday season in general. That definitely is a running theme.

However, Paul John Scott, writing at the Star Tribune, has another take on what “A Charlie Brown Christmas” is all about: [Read more…]

 

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Ferguson, Fairness, and Justice

fergusonsignsAs you probably have heard by now, yesterday a grand jury in Ferguson, Missouri, did not find probable cause to indict Darren Wilson for the death of Michael Brown.

While a grand jury is not the same as a trial – different rules, different results – political pundits and residents of Ferguson alike reacted to the decision as if a verdict had been reached on Wilson’s guilt.

Neither you nor I know for sure what really happened that sad day in Missouri. Alongside the public outcry over the tragedy, many points have been raised in Wilson’s defense.

It’s worth wondering: if the grand jury had indicted Wilson, does that automatically mean that he would have been convicted?

Scott Shackford, writing on Reason.com‘s Hit & Run Blog, asks that and the following important questions:

Should we be upset at the amount of deference and effort made to find reasons not to indict Wilson in this case or should we be upset that the same doesn’t happen to the rest of us? Is the outrage that a grand jury didn’t indict Wilson or is the outrage that the grand jury indicts just about everybody else?

For me this case places front and center the relationship we should have with the police.

As a child, I was taught to find a policeman if I was ever in trouble. I would still do that. As a matter of fact, I have graduated my town’s Citizens Police Academy, and helped form my local block watch. I encourage my neighbors to call a cop even when they are not sure they really need one.

At the same time, I know personally victims of police brutality.

I know all about the “blue wall of silence” that surrounds bad cops. And personally, I would not hesitate to go after a rogue if people I know are being victimized.

Professionally, I go out of my way to try to get life insurance for police officers and other law enforcement officials. They put their lives on the line for the public welfare and that sacrifice deserves my full commitment to the protection of their families.

How do you think we can prevent police brutality and improve our relationship with officers of the law? Leave your comment below.

 

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Can Philosophy Bring Wisdom?

PhilosophyBookMost people respect wise people – but never figure out how they became wise. While not every philosopher is truly wise, the practice of philosophy is very important to developing wisdom in life.

Patrick Allan from Lifehacker shares five ways in which philosophy brings you closer to wisdom.

Here is my favorite:

We sometimes lose perspective: So many things in our world are much bigger than we are. We spend our days concerned with what we have and what we want, but philosophy helps us gain perspective and see the big picture.

Which is your favorite way in which philosophy brings you closer to wisdom?

By the Way…

We life insurance sales people must take a philosophic approach to life to effectively serve our clients.

After all, the men and women who buy life insurance from us must confront their own mortality in order to make the purchase meaningful. It’s our job to coach them so they feel comfortable addressing issues which by nature are distressing and discomforting.

 

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Do You Take Out the Garbage?

We live in a world in which too many people want immediate gratification and to get rich quick. But we all know that in reality, the world doesn’t work that way. True success comes to people who will work for it. It takes the right combination of working hard, working smart, and working from the heart. You have to be willing to start at the bottom of the ladder.

Media executive Michael Casio put it this way in his recent essay in the New York Times:

Before I was an E.V.P., S.V.P. or V.P., I worked as a janitor. For two summers I cleaned toilets, mopped floors and smelled like garbage. It had nothing to do with my chosen profession. And yet nothing was better for preparing me for work and life as an adult.

People have to earn their keep. When I was a kid, if I wanted to buy something, I had to earn the money to spend. Even before my teens I was stuffing envelopes for my father’s life insurance general agency. I remember getting my pay and then taking a long walk to the local bookstore to buy a new Hardy Boys book.

Experiences like this keep you rooted. They keep you from feeling entitled to the rewards that come your way. They help you understand that it is your assiduous effort that yields either feast and famine.

Do your children understand this? Do your employees? Do your financial representatives take this attitude when servicing your account? Or do they take your business for granted?

 

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Is America Still Beautiful?

In Mecca, under the autocratic rule of wealthy despots, some of the worst byproducts of modernity – social fragmentation, the destruction of historical treasures, and the commercialization of religion – coincide with the rise of a fundamentalist brand of violent extremism. Ziauddin Sarder talked about this recently in the New York Times. Mr. Sarder is the editor of the quarterly Critical Muslim and the author of “Mecca: The Sacred City.” He bemoans the cultural devastation of this once-holy city:

The cultural devastation of Mecca has radically transformed the city. Unlike Baghdad, Damascus and Cairo, Mecca was never a great intellectual and cultural center of Islam. But it was always a pluralistic city where debate among different Muslim sects and schools of thought was not unusual. Now it has been reduced to a monolithic religious entity where only one, ahistoric, literal interpretation of Islam is permitted, and where all other sects, outside of the Salafist brand of Saudi Islam, are regarded as false. Indeed, zealots frequently threaten pilgrims of different sects. Last year, a group of Shiite pilgrims from Michigan were attacked with knives by extremists, and in August, a coalition of American Muslim groups wrote to the State Department asking for protection during this year’s hajj.

Mr. Sarder shows how the spiritual degradation of Mecca is reflected in the Muslim world at large:

Mecca is a microcosm of the Muslim world. What happens to and in the city has a profound effect on Muslims everywhere. The spiritual heart of Islam is an ultramodern, monolithic enclave, where difference is not tolerated, history has no meaning, and consumerism is paramount. It is hardly surprising then that literalism, and the murderous interpretations of Islam associated with it, have become so dominant in Muslim lands.

Such an incisive critique gives cause to reflect on our situation here in America.

Fragmented, Disengaged, and Alienated

I think our country has become very fragmented in recent years. I think that the current administration has caused a lot of damage with its inflammatory rhetoric about class, race, and gender.

We have also become disengaged from the land that has been our historical treasure. Many of our citizens do not realize that our country has been called “America the Beautiful” because they have very little to do with the natural environment.

And, we have become alienated from the “Judeo-Christian” heritage of our forefathers. It is not so much that our religions have become commercialized. It is more that the importance of philosophy and values has been underplayed, while economic success has been over-stressed.

Literalism vs Realism

I do believe that many consumers take a dogmatic approach to making financial decisions. An example is the idea of “buy term and invest the rest”. Many advisors preach that like the Gospel. They pay no attention to the potential benefits of permanent life insurance, and of policies that build cash value.

The fact is that no one approach is right for everyone. Depending on your circumstances, needs and goals, term may be appropriate; then again permanent, might be appropriate. And this can change over time.

The willingness to look at yourself realistically, the courage to do what is right for yourself regardless of what others say, and an openness to different viewpoints, can together yield a truly good decision about life insurance and your finances.

Hajj and Life Insurance

It may very well be that this year such a trip would be considered a higher risk factor. Travel to locations in which street violence, insurrection, and other dangers are possible can result in a higher rate. It may even result in a declination. An underwriter would have to be made fully aware of all the precautions for safety that would be taken, in order to get a comfort level with the risk.

 

 

 

 

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9/11 Thought: What Rules Do You Follow?

The anniversary of the 9/11 attack by Al Qaeda on America brings to mind a few sad facts about life: people will hate you just because of who you are. They will think they are better than you. And they will try to rule over you.

In my opinion, these people do not live by any rules applicable to life on this planet.

By what rules should the rest of us normal people live?  Many wise people throughout the ages have talked about this.  I have found many common themes. I have attempted to distill this wisdom into practical use in both my business and my personal life.

My career selling life insurance has been based on two axioms. The first is that your race, religion, gender, ethnic origin, and political persuasion do not matter to me.  Certainly, specific factors affect underwriting.  For example, women pay lower rates than men; religious missionaries who travel to dangerous third-world locales pay more than those who travel domestically.  But when it comes to treating you as a person, these differences do not matter.  You deserve treatment as my equal simply because you are a fellow human being.

The second axiom is that the purchase of life insurance is your decision alone to make. In the final analysis, the financial security of your family, your company, and your estate is your business.  I am here to make it possible for you to take care of them in one of the most effective ways possible.  But it is up to you to buy the product; I don’t sell it to you.  I must support your right to say no.  You are, after all, running your own life.  I cannot run it for you.

I have found these axioms to apply not just in business, but in my life in general.  I think this is because respecting the individuality of a person is really a universal ethic.  It applies to every person in every place in every time.  Both the littlest baby and the oldest elder have a right to their own time and space.  We have to let people be themselves, then work with that.

And when people refuse to give us our own time and space, we have a right to get them to back off.  We could and should do whatever it takes to get them to realize that this is how the game is played.  It is not only our right, but our duty to enforce the rules that apply to everybody.  They are good for us, and they are good for them.

What do you think?  Do you think that there is a universal ethic for living on this planet?  If so, is it different than mine?

 

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What Makes Americans Prosperous?

As a life insurance salesman, I like to pay attention to what popular media says about my profession. It’s often not too flattering. In the movies and TV shows I’ve seen, my compatriots are typically portrayed as sleazy shysters or bumbling failures. Gangsters are often cast in a better light.

Never mind the fact that millions of Americans have found the life insurance business the way to make a good living. Let’s discount the fact that trillions of dollars have been funneled into the pockets of needy Americans in the form of life insurance benefits. I guess the Hollywood moguls see no reason to glamorize the successes of the American system.

This should be a source of concern to us all. The generation that will soon assume command of our country is not getting the best of messages about the country they will lead. Too many pop stars, big time movie producers, and college teachers are down on America.

Commentator John Hawkins bemoans this sad situation in his recent post. But he also shares with us the real reason why this country is still the envy of the world. Here is an excerpt:

We’re successful because a lot of steady, responsible people do boring jobs that have to be done. It’s the man who works 40 hours in his first job and another 20 hours a week at a part-time job so he can pay the bills for his wife and kids. It’s the stay-at-home mom with spit-up on her blouse who has been on her feet for hours cleaning and taking care of the kids. It’s the small businessman who worked 70 hours a week for peanuts over the last decade to get his business to the point where he can have people complain that he’s not paying enough in taxes. It’s the single mother who gives up partying every night to make sure her child is taken care of like he should be. It’s the pastor who says something from the pulpit that will be controversial, but that his flock needs to hear. It’s the cop who sweats through a half dozen encounters with drunk, drugged, and potentially violent creeps each night because he cares about keeping a neighborhood safe. It’s a soldier sleeping in a tent far from home because he’s doing his part to keep the peace. It’s the couple who feels like they’ve achieved the American dream because they got married, bought a house, had two kids, and are putting enough money in their 401k to retire someday.

It is the “steady, responsible people” who reap the benefits we would all like to have. That is true for my business, as well as for every other occupation in life. Don’t you think so?

 

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Why Should the Government Limit Political Donations?

As a life insurance salesman, I compete for my business with hundreds of thousands of other sales people. These competitors include other licensed independent brokers; captive agents; property and casualty brokers; benefits consultants; bankers; accountants; investment advisors; financial planners; and wealth managers. When you consider the internet presence of many of these people, I basically have a competitor everywhere I look.

Not only that, but the life insurance industry does not allow for much innovation or exclusivity among us salespeople. We all can represent the same carriers. We all sell the same products. We all charge the same price for our products (given the same company and underwriting class). And, of course, we all want to land the big fish and sell a huge policy to a very rich person.

Given such a level playing field, success in this business really boils down to this: may the best marketer win. That is what it takes. You build yourself up into the person with the best brand, and the best way of reaching the right people, and you get what you want. If you succeed in attracting the business of Mr. and Mrs. Billionaire, then more power to you.

As far as I am concerned, this is the American way to success. It applies to business, and it applies to every other sector of our public life. That includes politics. For this reason, I have always wondered at the obsession people have with the government controlling political donations. We only have two major political parties in this country. Are they not big enough and organized enough to go out and get all the money they need? Does the USA have such a shortage of millionaires and billionaires that there is not enough big money to satisfy just two parties? Are these parties lacking in manpower so that they can’t solicit even modest donations from zillions of supporters? Are they having trouble attracting the best and brightest media consultants and marketing experts?

You know the answer to these questions as well as I do. Here is an article from the Washington Post that talks about the new latitude that has been given for political donations. My personal wish is that the latitude keeps stretching until the government removes all its controls entirely. The people who want to run our country should not need the government to constrain their competition.

May the best marketer win.

 

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How Can I Prevent Date Rape?

Sexual assault is all too common in our society. Women have to be wary in many social situations, especially at bars and parties. This is sad, but true.

From a life insurance underwriting point of you, the trauma of rape can pose enormous challenges. Conditions ranging from PTSD to depression to job dysfunction may have to be addressed. Coverage is often possible, but the broker needs to be extremely sensitive and knowledgeable when working for potential applicants with this history.

Fortunately, American inventiveness is making it easier to prevent one prevalent form of attack: date rape. Four enterprising (male!) students at North Carolina State University have created a nail polish that can detect common date rape drugs. When wearing the polish, all a woman needs to do is stir a drink with her finger to make sure it has not been contaminated.

Read about their marvelous invention here. Hats off to their social conscience and ingenuity!

 

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Should I Pray When I Buy Life Insurance?

http://www.dreamstime.com/stock-image-youth-muslim-prayer-image25833391Would praying help you buy life insurance?

Would it help you to make any other financial purchase?

I think so.

Self-development expert Joe Vitale talks about how prayer works in this recent post.

He stresses the importance of a spirit of gratitude.

The wisdom of requesting, rather than begging.

The need to act on your insights, inspiration, and intuition.

Here is what he says about acting:

We co-create results. The Higher Power (God, Divine, Universe, etc) works through you, not for you. When you see an opportunity, seize it. When you receive an inspiration, act on it. You are the missing ingredient in most results from prayer. The famous joke about the man who prayed to win the lottery but was reminded to buy a ticket, is good to remember.

How does this apply to the purchase of life insurance? Well, let’s suppose you sat down in a quiet place and said the following to yourself:

“May my family members live long and prosperous lives.

May my business reach new heights of success.

May all the charities and good causes that I support flourish.

May they all have everything they need for financial security and financial growth.

In this spirit, I buy this life insurance policy to help make sure this all will happen”.

It seems to me that buying life insurance with this mindset could be a very blessed event.

What do you think?

 

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Does the Robin Williams Tragedy Make You Think About Suicide?

The death of the great comedian Robin Williams sheds light on a very delicate topic: suicide. I have firsthand professional experience with this.

A number of years ago a client committed suicide. She was also a personal friend, and that made her loss much more difficult to deal with. Her husband was a friend as well, and I literally held his hand through the claim process. It was very hard on both of us.

There was no doubt she had been suffering from depression, or another severe disorder. It was apparently a very extreme situation: she went from feeling blue, to feeling very dark, very quickly. She gave absolutely no indication that things were this bad until she pulled the trigger.

The life insurance benefit was paid without a hitch. The event took place well after the suicide clause would have applied. But getting the money was the easy part, of course; the tough part was the challenge facing a young widower and his young children. They are, thankfully, doing well.

What can we learn from tragedies like this? A lot. Psychologist Bill Knaus, Ed.D. gives us some pointers in his Psychology Today article. Here is one that makes sense to me:

Suicide is a highly preventable cause of death. For example, effectively addressing hopeless and helplessness thinking is a promising path to suicide prevention.

Read Bill’s article. Does it help you understand Robin a bit more?

 

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Will There Be War When We Have Peace?

This is not as crazy a question as it sounds. It forces us to talk about what peace really means. Should we strive for a time when there is no war at all? Should we settle for wars that are “contained,” and not catastrophic with severe loss of life and property? If this is not possible, should we just hope that only the bad guys fight and kill each other off?

When I finally have peace in my corner of the globe, what should I do with it? Should I just try to sell as much life insurance as is humanly possible? Would that “insure” the peace and make sure it lasts? These kinds of questions make you think about how what you do – and how you do it – affect the world at large.

Some people say that to bring peace into the world, you have to find “inner peace.” That is certainly true: if people act with hostility and aggression, they will receive it in return. If they offer peace and gentleness, they will get such back. But is that all we need: for each person to simply get his or her act together, so peace will naturally fall into place?

I do not think so. It seems to me that what we do matters as much as how we do it. Many murderers, serial killers, and thugs are cool, calm, and collected as they do their dastardly deeds. It is what they do that makes the world a worse place. How they do it can make matters worse, but is not the cause of the problem.

By the same token, it is the good deeds we do that make the world a better place. Making a wholesome living in an honorable occupation… devoting oneself to a worthwhile cause, such as eradicating cancer… and even performing a single act of kindness, such as walking a little old lady across the street… all make a positive difference.

The good things we do can even involve bad things. Defending yourself against a violent mugger is good, even if it means hurting your attacker. Ordinarily, we would not want to hurt anybody; but it is sometimes necessary to do so to save ourselves. The same principle applies to a nation protecting itself from an invader. It would not want to incur any civilian casualties, but that is sometimes necessary to save itself.

But is life really that simple? Does the world become a better place simply by doing good things, even though bad stuff happens in the process? This is where “how we do what we do” can make a difference. Fighting off a mugger in a way that simply ends the fight and does not prolong the confrontation, can make the fight a single event. But getting into it for the sake of fighting can make violence between people a habit. Similarly, a nation fighting off an invader in way that simply ends the war and does not prolong the confrontation, can make the war a single event. But getting into it for the sake of fighting can make war between nations a habit. In both cases, the world becomes a worse place because people did the right thing (self defense) in the wrong way (with unpeaceful intent).

So what does this say about the possibility of a world without war? It says that wars can still be good if nations conduct them in the right way – with peaceful intent. And if people try to always have a peaceful intent, why would they start a war in the first place?

Make sense to you?

 

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Are You Dressed For Success, Or Failure?

Dress is important in business. First impressions go a long way. We have split seconds to encourage or discourage people to work with us. This is especially true with life insurance sales people. People could be ready to commit a significant portion of their budget to the products and services we provide. They need to trust us right off the bat.

When I first got into the business, “dressing for success” was the way to go. No deviation. I remember one of the top producers in our agency once wore a turtleneck to the office, instead of the standard white shirt, dark suit, and power tie. The agency manager had a fit.

But even the staid financial services industry has loosened up a bit. These days, we have to resist the trend to loosen up too much. We are living in times in which anything goes, and that includes clothes – or the lack thereof. The work environment can easily become too informal, and morale and productivity can suffer.

Here’s a quick list for you of common dress code violations. They serve as an important reminder that looking your best is key to doing your best. Tell me what you think of the list. Does your workplace have any of these problems?

 

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Who Owns Your Wealth?

What do we mean when we say somebody owns something? I think we mean that it is ours to do with what we want. I bought something, it is mine; I can do with it what I please. Or, I give somebody something, and it is hers; she can do with it what she pleases. Likewise, if someone in my family leaves me a life insurance benefit, that money is mine. I can spend it, or save it, or invest it as I see fit.

But don’t I have any constraints at all over what I can do with that money? When you think about it, there are indeed a few. First of all, if someone in my family does leave me a life insurance benefit, I must see that there was intent behind that decision. The money should be used to live the good life they would want me to lead, and not become a wasteful bum. It would be dishonorable to let that person down and violate the spirit in which that money was given to me.

Along those lines, I cannot use the money for illicit or illegal gains. That would be a betrayal but only of my loving family member, but of society as well. We each have an implicit contract with others to use our power for constructive, and not destructive, purposes. Take a look at what terror groups like Hamas do with the financial assistance they receive: they buy weaponry and launch those missiles against civilians. They not only betray the donors who had offered humanitarian aid – they also betray humanity by unleashing deadly force against the innocent.

What if I decided to live a good life, to not waste money, and to not engage in illicit or illegal activities? Would I then be upholding all my responsibilities? Tell you the truth, I don’t think so. I believe there is one more obligation that must be met: it is to the Generator of all wealth. In the final analysis, we must give full credit where all credit is due. That, of course, means we have a duty towards the people with whom we do business, and from whom we inherit money. But it also means that we recognize and appreciate the Source of all our powers to produce in the first place.

The One who made us human gave us astounding powers to create, to manufacture, to connect with people. To build stuff and share it, and trade it, and use it to help others. All the wealth we accumulate and generate is a byproduct of this creative potential that has been granted to us. As such, we really cannot claim it is exclusively ours. It can more appropriately be described as a loan from the Grantor.

What do you think? Who really is the source of your wealth?

 

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Get More Optimistic In Five Minutes!

Here is your Monday Good News Roundup. Start your week feeling good about money, people, and the world around you.

Get More Optimistic In Five Minutes!

Read this blog from a young man with Muscular Distrophy. He really knows how to not just survive, but thrive!

Here are young people with their heads on straight about life and money.

Chicago Kids Nix Celebrity B’nai Mitzvahs, Use Money for Church Playground.

Diabetic, beautiful, and proud!

Miss Idaho Proudly Displays Insulin Pump During Bikini Walk

A poor and beaten boy finds a loving home.

Teacher adopts ‘holy terror‘ student no one else wanted

 

 

 

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What’s Wrong With A Little Bit of Venting?

http://www.dreamstime.com/royalty-free-stock-photos-man-yelling-phone-image18593628Mental toughness expert Jason Selk puts emotional venting in the proper perspective in his recent Forbes article.

His strategy for dealing with it can help us all be less of a burden not only to others, but – very importantly – to ourselves.

As business and professional people, we meet with a steady stream of clients and customers.

Unfortunately, not every minute of the day is a good one to see people.

Maybe a personal phone call upset us, yet then we had to greet a new prospect.

Perhaps the first appointment of the day didn’t go well, but it was followed by three others.

I know that as a life insurance salesman, it is a big challenge to not bring the “emotional residue” of one encounter into the next.

Still need to let it out

But sometimes the day catches up with you, and we need to let it out.

Our clients and customers may like to be nice and listen to our problems, but our woes are really not their business.

Besides, it is unfair to ask them to serve as a sounding board when they have other things to do.

How can prevent our emotions from getting the best of us when we are in a businesslike and professional environment?

Jason points the way. He has a neat and efficient four-point strategy for dealing with the situation.

Here is one tip that really appeals to me:

Let Emotional Discomfort Prompt Action. When we “vent,” we’re often looking for validation that what we’re thinking is true and that we’re not to blame. Most will receive that validation and be content with the fact that there’s nothing to do to improve their situation. In essence, they become complicit victims. The mentally tough, on the other hand, use their discontentment not as an excuse to vent, but as a signal that an improvement is necessary. Learn to use emotional discomfort as a cue that something needs to change. Redirect the energy you would spend venting, and ask yourself, “What is one thing I can do that could make this better?”

Take a look at Jason’s strategy. It’s a quick read.

Do you think it could work for you?

 

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First a Temp – Now, Majority Shareholder!

Do you need people in your firm who can work their way up to the top? Who are grateful for an opportunity to grow, and will make the best of it? Who don’t feel they deserve anything but a chance to show how they can improve your bottom line? I know I am. Such people are the pillars of American business.

Renee Rodriguez is one of these great people. She was interviewed recently by Kate Taylor in Entrepreneur Magazine. In a snapshot, here is her story:

After graduating from the University of Southern Colorado, Renee Rodriquez turned to a local Express Employment Professionals franchise office for a temporary job until she could find permanent employment. However, the local Express owners realized there was something special about the temp and decided to hire her for their own office. Five years later, the franchise owners asked Rodriquez if she would like to be a partner in the business. Five years after that, once the original owners decided to sell, she became majority partner.

Take a moment to read the full interview. It’s not too long. It will restore your faith in the American Way. And you thought we were lost, didn’t you?!

 

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Praise for American Exceptionalism

It’s easy for us Americans to get down ourselves and forget how great we really are. I know that as a life insurance salesman, if I lose track of the unique value I bring to the table, I feel lost.

Nick Adams gave us all a pep talk in his speech at the Heritage Foundation yesterday. Nick is a political figure who served as the youngest deputy mayor in Australian history at age 21. Here is a quote:

“I’m here to give Americans optimism at a time where there are so many slumped shoulders. I must say that if I were an American, I would also feel that there is not much reason to be hopeful. I think it is indisputable that America is in decline as we speak. But decline, I believe, is a choice, it’s not a condition. Decline can be reversed. A lot of America’s current ailments are a result, I think, of policy failures. To use an Australian term, I think that America can boomerang provided that it re-embraces the values and the virtues of its founding principles and its history.”

Makes me feel better already. How about you? Happy birthday, America!

 

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A Personal Note About the Mistreatment of Veterans

Long before I got started in the life insurance business, I learned many life lessons from my uncle, a veteran of World War II.  My uncle escaped the Nazis and came to this country as a teenager. Nobody in his family knew English. Like all the other immigrants at the time, they put their noses to the grindstone and did what they had to do to become Americans. His mother was seriously ill when the day came for her swearing in to be a citizen of this country. There was absolutely no way she was going to miss that.

My uncle served with distinction in the U.S. Navy. He then went to college on the G.I. Bill. (He still gives on a yearly basis to his alma mater). He then began a career as a probation officer for the city of New York. That career lasted 50 years.

A few years ago my uncle was combating an infection in his bloodstream. It affected many of his major organs, including his brain. This adversely affected his mood, and he felt very defensive when dealing with doctors and hospital personnel (this was not a VA hospital). He felt he often had to “plead his case” and remind them of who and what he was. Sure, he was not his usual self, but what was interesting to me was that his core identity shined through.

Do you know what he kept telling people? He kept telling them that he was an American. He was a veteran. He served his country. He served the city of New York. Over and over again. His basic message was this: the rights and welfare of a loyal citizen of this country – especially one who has put his life on the line for the rest of us – should never be trampled. Doing so is not just beneath his dignity – it is beneath the dignity of the nation.

Yes, it is.

Why am I speaking out on this issue? It’s simple: when our morals get stronger, then our government will get smaller. When our government gets smaller, our economy will get stronger. It is in my self-interest as a businessman, as a life insurance broker, and as an American to make sure our politicians and lawmakers do the right thing.

 

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